This is. odd. I have that kind of relationship that hank is describing with the whole loving my partner and stuff. Except it's all my partners. I'm very close and open with all my partners ^. so I'm not sure what most of what he says is to do with monogamous. I also have friends who are married but poly. I'm currently seeing somebody who's married, in fact (in a poly, everyone-is-consenting way, not a homewrecker kind of way).